It is the time of flowers, chocolates and red hearts. Some call it a marketing gimmick designed by the florists to make us spend more money. Valentine’s day, whether you choose to celebrate it or not, is a day about love.
What type of lover are you? Do you give gifts? Do you do something nice for the one you love like cook a special dinner? Do you clear your mind and your schedule and spend the day chatting away? Do you tell your lover how much they mean to you? Do you embrace them and hold them in your arms? Or do you shower your lover with words of appreciation and gratitude?
How you love others says a lot about how you want to be loved. You most likely use your love strategy, how you want to feel love, to express how you love someone else.
What about your lover? What love strategy do they want to RECEIVE?
Often, we forget that what we want isn’t necessarily what the other person wants. Just because we love being showered with gifts, doesn’t mean the person we love wants the same. Take my husband and I as an example. My husband is more a words of affirmation kind of lover. He likes when I tell him how well I think he’s doing. I’m a quality time type of person. I like sitting around over a nice bottle of wine and talking about goals and our future. When it comes to expressing love to my husband, I make sure that I don’t do this by making him sit down and chat with me for hours. I do it by telling him how grateful I am for how hard he works or how amazing his body is. I also know that when I need to make sure that I’m expressing love to my husband, I hug him for at least 20 seconds. Why 20 seconds? Because it takes 20 seconds for the neural chemicals to start flowing throughout your whole body. You get a complete experience of love if you hold your hug for twenty seconds.
What about you? What about your lover? Do you know which love strategy they want to receive? This year, focus on exploring the answers to these questions. I guarantee your lover will be thankful.
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