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My friend was running late for lunch. I mean, really late. Like 45 minutes late. Why? Because her GPS gave her the wrong directions to the building where we were having lunch. I told her where lunch was and gave her the landmarks around the area to make sure she knew. Our mutual friend told …

I have a friend who told me a story about making a conscious decision to let his boss fail. You see, he was in charge of an event for his organization and the person assigned to handle registrations on the day of the event was called away on a business trip. He told his boss …

It sneaks into most of my workshops. It pops up in a lot of my conversations. It’s the big hairy beast of generalizations. “Don’t you find that all men think like that?” “Women are more emotional than men.” “Everyone does it.” “It is like that here.” I don’t like being argumentative and when someone is …

I used to have this really bad dream that my husband found a younger, thinner, more impressive women and left me for this upgraded model. It was a reoccurring dream that was reeking havoc on my relationship. Not only was I angry and hurt while I was dreaming, I got up and was angry at …

Recently I took a trip to Bali to attend a friend’s birthday party.  The first few days, I stayed at this lovely villa with a plunge pool, large living and dining area and massive bedroom.  I was relaxed, energised and at peace with my surroundings.   Then I moved hotels.  My husband had some work to …

I was in a wheelchair when I got off the plane. I had been in a skiing accident and I fractured my tibia plateau & tore both my ACLs (ligament in your knee).  I had 2 separate surgeries and had been in a wheelchair for two months.  I returned to Singapore and was about to …

I’ve noticed a few people around me who claim to be leaders in their given field display an amazing lack of self-discipline. The details are irrelevant.  What is relevant is the behaviour.  What I was noticing were these self-professed leadership experts pointing fingers, placing blame, and complaining until they got their way.  I just wanted to …

There are a lot of corporate development programs focused on cultural diversity or cultural inclusion.  For me, I tilt my head to the side and say, “Really?”  Is it really the culture that needs to be included or celebrated for its diversity or is it the individual? For me, it is the individual who has …

Do you set New Year’s Resolutions?  I do.  Well sort of.  I don’t actually call them New Year’s Resolutions.  I call them FLOW Goals and they are part of the Strategic Planning I do each year.  One particular year, I was determined to get one of my personal goals achieved in record time…until I broke …

Probably the first thing that came to your mind when you read “sabotage” is procrastination so that’s the one I’m not going to cover.  Why?  Because there’s a simple solution.  Schedule it and get it done.  Now on to the other 5 ways we sabotage ourselves: #1 Distraction Wait a minute, there’s a FB message …

I was chatting with my friend the other day and she said something to me that made my ears perk up and say, “OOOH, tell me more…”  She said that her and her husband give each other goals each year.  “You mean you tell your husband what you want him to achieve?” I asked.  Sure …

Imagine a bamboo stick.  It’s a pretty hard substance.  I mean, you wouldn’t want to be caned with it, would you?  But even though it is strong, if you put it in a river and stand on it, the strength of the bamboo wouldn’t hold you up, would it?  Even if you had really good …