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#7 Outcomes When I first moved to Singapore, something very exciting happened – I got engaged! I was so excited about getting married within the year and needed to find a wedding dress. I was enchanted by the Cheongsam, a sleek Chinese styled dress with a high collar and a silhouette hugging shape. I knew …
History repeats itself. Or does it? Our brains like history. Our brains like generalizing information to match things that have already happened. We form habits this way. We also form bad habits this way. My husband used to love pointing out when I did something wrong. He told me I wasn’t stirring the risotto correctly …
Have you ever been crazy busy? I mean, like “pulling your hair out” kind of busy? It seems like more and more of us suffer from crazy busy (watch out because a pharmaceutical company will come up with a pill for it soon – but I digress). I remember a time when I started a …
I remember a time in my life when I couldn’t let things go. I could hold a grudge for years if I felt I was wronged in some way. The way I kept my negative emotions going is by telling and re-telling the stories of how I was wronged by someone. Each time I relived …
My phone just gave up last week. It was bound to happen. Google updated Android and my phone didn’t like it at all. It was too much change too fast for my baby phone and it just died. It choked on the Lollipop and I became the sucker. So I got a new phone. And …
Singapore (and other parts of S.E Asia) are suffering from the haze caused by people burning down trees to clear way for farm land in Indonesia. There have been days where the PSI rating (a measure of pollution) has reached over 300 – definitely harmful for everyone. I just happen to be one of those …
Do you use adult language at work or do you sound like a four-year-old? I’m not a big fan of the news in general but the recent haze epidemic in Singapore has lead me to pay much more attention to the news than I normally do. I was delighted to hear when several retailers pulled …
It’s important to know when we are using the wrong strategy to get where we want to go. If you run east to capture a beautiful sunset, you are using the wrong strategy. There have been many times in my past that I’ve been so caught up in a strategy, I didn’t pull my head …
When I first started studying NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming), I was fascinated by how we program our minds. This programming first starts out unconsciously as we are children growing up modeling the behavior, beliefs and values of others. As we become adults we can choose to consciously program ourselves such as when we start a …
My husband used to say that I was the Queen of Overreacting. And I was. Any little thing could set me off to exaggeration, flying off the handle and jumping to conclusions. Then I learned about NLP and I found all sorts of stuff that made me think twice before I reacted. After years of …
When it comes to remembering things, questions are the key. Our brains are like a vast landscape of information that has particular pathways to retrieve that information. If you have stored something in your brain consciously (this rarely happens unless you know these memory tricks already) then you create a conscious pathway of how to …
There’s a gift I don’t think anyone should accept this holiday season or for that matter any season! Do you want to know what that gift is? I’m going to tell you and first I need to give you a little background information. You see, it’s that time of year when some of us spend …
Following up from last week’s post on remembering things, I thought this week, I would teach you a really good memory technique called a peg list. And while I teach you the memory technique, I’m also going to tell you about 26 cool things to know about NLP. A peg list is just a list …
As we are rounding out 2022 and getting set for 2023, I know this is a time when a lot of people start thinking about what they’ve accomplished this year (or didn’t accomplish) and what they want to set as goals for the coming year. Whether it’s New Year’s Resolutions, SMART Goals or my much …
Do you follow the golden rule of “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”? Are you a giver, a taker or somewhere in between? In the season of giving, you find that some people are givers. They give and give and give and really don’t expect anything in return. They like …
The other day, I was working with a client who has an addiction. We were reviewing how he managed to stay addicted – what was his strategy. He told me about this book he read that stated that all of us were hardwired to be addicted. I understood the neurochemical basis for this though didn’t …
The Lottery in the USA has climbed to a record breaking and chokingly high level of $1.3 Billion. Yup, that’s Billion with a big B. Sales may see that number climb higher than $1.5 Billion before the draw on my birthday, January 13th. You can yap all you want about the odds of winning this …
Did you know there were different types of goals? There are task goals, habit goals and project goals. Did you know that you need to have a different strategy for achieving each of these different types of goals? A task goal has a very different strategy then a project goal. A habit goal not only …
One thing that stops people from achieving big goals is their belief that it isn’t possible or achievable. It comes from that notion that we are meant to have “SMART” goals: specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and time bound. It’s rubbish so don’t pay attention to it any more. You have all the resources you need …
Is it possible to start a craze or a fad? I want to start one for 2022 that is related to self-discipline. The monkey – if you know anything about monkeys they are the ones that stay on your back. Monkeys are the self-development world’s symbol for a bad habit or something you want to …
Tip #2 – The 10 Minute Rule Wait 10 minutes before you succumb to temptation or decide not to start something. Let’s say you don’t want to go exercise. Just go for 10 minutes. That’s it. Just 10 minutes. The likely result is that once you are there, you will just continue with your workout. …
Tip #3 Eat the Right Food for the Brain Willpower doesn’t exist. It isn’t real. You can’t will yourself to stop yourself from a bad habit or avoid temptation. Self-discipline is real! And it works if you are doing the things you need to do to make sure your self-discipline has all the help it …
Tip #4 The Fishbowl If you want to really succeed this year in the goals you’ve set for yourself, then get a fish bowl and let’s get started on this unusual technique. The fishbowl technique is based on the fact that we all love getting rewarded for good behavior. It also is based on the …
Tip #5 Get Friends with Better Goals Darren Hardy, self-development expert, has a saying that goes like this: “You become the average of the 5 people you hang around the most.” It’s totally true! My sister and I were talking once about how her marriage wasn’t going so well. I was ready to listen but …
