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When I was growing up, I was a latchkey kid, which meant that when I left elementary school each day, my house was empty and I had a key to let myself in. Both my parents worked and my sisters were older than I was and their school didn’t get out until after mine. Fortunately …
If you’d rather read than watch, just scroll past the video Mistake #1 – Allowing Boredom to Set In Boredom is the inability to take responsibility for our own entertainment. For me, it’s about state change. You body and your mind don’t want to feel whatever it is that you’re feeling so our …
Do you have a song that you listen to that brings you back to a particular place and time? For me, that song is Boys of Summer. When I hear that song, I’m transported back to a certain day, lying at the beach when I was 16 years old, surrounded by good looking guys and …
On my contract with my 1-on-1 coaching clients, I explain my coaching process and my strict cancellation policy. The reason for this is that the mind loves to play games with us. You never know when your mind is “making you busy”, busy enough to have to cancel your coaching appointment, when what really is …
For some of us, we are highly motivated by stupid stuff. Some of us are motivated because we want to prove ourselves to others. I remember one of my managers early in my career in the hospitality industry saying I would never be an entrepreneur. There’s nothing more I love than someone telling me I …
We all have resources in our lives to help us achieve our goals. We have our strengths like leadership skills, the ability to negotiate or to resolve conflict, our capacity to work in teams or independently, our intelligence, our confidence, etc. We also have outside resources such as people we model, mentors, bosses, support staff, …
This is an age of technology that I’m not in love with. I don’t ever remember being asked by the companies I normally do business with if I could give up my time to solve their problems. I don’t remember being asked to be the “glitch finder” and I certainly don’t remember ever getting a …
I’ve read a lot of stuff in social media about the importance of listening to our bodies and how important it is to tune in. As usual, I’d like to chime in with my own beliefs on listening to what are bodies are trying to say to us. I believe that there are 3 BIG …
I was listening to a podcast the other day and learned a new concept that I needed to share. It’s called disciplined optimism. What it means is that you are focused on your outcomes while having a clear understanding of the facts of your current reality. It’s the discipline of taking stock of the challenges …
I was having lunch with my friend Cindy today. She’s a world of inspiration for me. Today our conversation centered around her children and the trials of parenthood. We both have a similar idea of what it takes to be a parent. It takes a lot of hard work! It’s no walk in the park …
Many of us struggle with arguments and miscommunication because we don’t understand this concept called problem ownership. And the reason we don’t understand it is because “problem ownership” isn’t a great way of describing what is actually going on. If you think about the name, it sounds like you own a problem. And for most …
If you are a self-development kind of person, like I am, you know about S.M.A.R.T goals. Some of my fans already know how I feel about “SMART” goals. But I had a phone call the other day that prompted me to clarify something. There’s no T in “SMART” goals. The phone call was from another …
I got up this morning and I didn’t feel well. I wasn’t really sick, I just felt like something wasn’t right. And then I went to the gym. I didn’t want to go to the gym because I still didn’t feel well. But I went and did my 90-minute workout anyway. When I returned to …
I was chatting with one of my former coaching clients the other day and he told me a story I need to share. This particular gentleman is a “former” coaching client because he is one of those types of people that like surpassing his teachers. And that makes me one proud coach. This guy took it upon …
There’s a pattern emerging in my life that I’m trying to stop. It’s a series of questions my husband asks me when he gets home from work. Do you want wine? Red or White? Chardonnay, Pinot Gris, Sauvignon Blanc? It drives me nuts. I know it sounds silly but here’s the back story. Every day …
I’ve had several coaching clients with the same problem – they were looking for problems in all the wrong places. And by “all the wrong places” I mean EVERYWHERE. These clients had become experts at finding problems in every area of their lives. For one client it was most predominant in “her industry.” She wasn’t …
There’s a lot of talk in the corporate world about EQ or Emotional Intelligence. It works itself into discussions on leadership, management, communications and culture diversity. But there’s something that proceeds EQ that is currently being ignored and that’s PQ. What’s PQ? Physical intelligence. Why do I say that Physical Intelligence is being ignored? Have …
How do you build an awful strategy? I mean a really bad one that isn’t going to get you anywhere? It’s easy. Build the strategy based on a limiting belief. I’ve been doing some refresher NLP work and listening to some different people say stuff about things I already know but because they say it …
If I said to you, “try this” and handed you a piece of gooey pizza, would you lean forward as if to eat it and then not really do it? I don’t think so. You’d probably take a bite and tell me whether or not you liked it. That’s what trying is all about. According …
I was listening to a podcast the other day and heard these great tips on Introverted Networking. You know if you’re one of those introverts if the thought of going to a networking event makes your skin crawl. But there’s a range of introverted to extroverted tendencies so for some introverts, networking doesn’t happen unless …
Recently I worked with a coaching client who had a big problem. She had a prospect who was trying to minimize her proposal and remove necessary elements for the service to be performed. My client was pulling her hair out because she just couldn’t see how she was going to get the client to agree …
I have an NLP Practitioner Certification course coming up and one of my participants was concerned that she wouldn’t be able to focus in class. “My mind always wanders” she proclaimed. Here’s the 3 tips I told her to help her keep her attention on what really matters: In NLP we call this being Associated. …
To build great confidence we first need to demolish a few bad habits. Today I was chatting with a few people about confidence. Why do some people have it (and sometimes an overabundance of it) while others lack it? For me, it’s about awareness and choice. First you need to be aware of what prevents …
My client sat before me an absolute wreck. She had been beaten down. By what, I had not yet heard. Her face was ashen and her eyes red and puffy. I could tell from these signs and her slumped posture that things weren’t going well. “What’s happening?” I asked. The menacing list of all of …
