Lindley Craig

My client sat before me an absolute wreck. She had been beaten down. By what, I had not yet heard. Her face was ashen and her eyes red and puffy.   I could tell from these signs and her slumped posture that things weren’t going well. “What’s happening?” I asked. The menacing list of all of …

I’ve noticed there are a lot of pregnant people in Singapore. I never had children. I actually don’t like them. Some children are nice. They belong to other people and that’s the way I like it. This is my ‘stuff’. You don’t have to like my opinion about children because it’s my ‘stuff’. You don’t …

Recently I was visiting my father in the USA and was helping out with some chores around the farm. Several trees had come down and I was pulling logs off the tracks in the woods as my father cut section with his chainsaw. Much to my dismay, my romp in the woods that day resulted …

I don’t like cleaning. It’s really hard work. I cleaned my apartment last Sunday and spent 6 hours sweating. I fell asleep at 8:30PM because I was so exhausted. When I got up the next morning to a shiny home, I was peacock-proud of myself. Well done me! Having a ‘clean’ environment is one of …

When writing my book Raise Your BAR, the proven system to stretch yourself to success, there was this persistent thought that kept buzzing around my mind. Like a bee waiting to pollinate its next flower, this thought kept buzzing around my mind until I gave it space to land. There’s no ‘I’ in team That …

Is it hard for you to exercise regularly? For a lot of my clients the answer is “YES!” They know the benefits; all those great neurochemicals racing around making you feel good, mind-body connection, improved muscle tone & coordination, etc. And yet, despite the benefits people sabotage themselves in a variety of ways. Something came …

I run a few times per week through the parks near my house. A few weeks back, I was doing a 1-4 session after being off the track for over 2 months. A 1-4 session means I was jogging 1 minute for every 5 minutes I was out in the park. 1 minute jog, 4 …

I am a speaker. I am a trainer. I am a wife. These proclamations describe my identity. Who I think I am as a person. They can be more descriptive. I am passionate. I am caring. I am loving. They can be fleeting. I am bored. I am confused. I am hungry. I’m dying for …

I like helping people. That’s why I do what I do. And I can’t help people that don’t want to be helped no matter how frustrating it is for me to see someone else struggle. Take my husband. We’re in a car in Malaysia and he’s having problems finding his way back to the highway. …

There’s an advertising that pops into my inbox every once in awhile on the art of war (Sun Tsu) as it applies to business. It bothers me. Metaphors are powerful mind benders. They are used in conversational hypnotherapy, advertising and by salespeople to get your brain to connect to a story and from that story …

My friend was running late for lunch. I mean, really late. Like 45 minutes late. Why? Because her GPS gave her the wrong directions to the building where we were having lunch. I told her where lunch was and gave her the landmarks around the area to make sure she knew. Our mutual friend told …

I have a friend who told me a story about making a conscious decision to let his boss fail. You see, he was in charge of an event for his organization and the person assigned to handle registrations on the day of the event was called away on a business trip. He told his boss …

It sneaks into most of my workshops. It pops up in a lot of my conversations. It’s the big hairy beast of generalizations. “Don’t you find that all men think like that?” “Women are more emotional than men.” “Everyone does it.” “It is like that here.” I don’t like being argumentative and when someone is …

I used to have this really bad dream that my husband found a younger, thinner, more impressive women and left me for this upgraded model. It was a reoccurring dream that was reeking havoc on my relationship. Not only was I angry and hurt while I was dreaming, I got up and was angry at …

Recently I took a trip to Bali to attend a friend’s birthday party.  The first few days, I stayed at this lovely villa with a plunge pool, large living and dining area and massive bedroom.  I was relaxed, energised and at peace with my surroundings.   Then I moved hotels.  My husband had some work to …

I was in a wheelchair when I got off the plane. I had been in a skiing accident and I fractured my tibia plateau & tore both my ACLs (ligament in your knee).  I had 2 separate surgeries and had been in a wheelchair for two months.  I returned to Singapore and was about to …

I’ve noticed a few people around me who claim to be leaders in their given field display an amazing lack of self-discipline. The details are irrelevant.  What is relevant is the behaviour.  What I was noticing were these self-professed leadership experts pointing fingers, placing blame, and complaining until they got their way.  I just wanted to …

There are a lot of corporate development programs focused on cultural diversity or cultural inclusion.  For me, I tilt my head to the side and say, “Really?”  Is it really the culture that needs to be included or celebrated for its diversity or is it the individual? For me, it is the individual who has …

Do you set New Year’s Resolutions?  I do.  Well sort of.  I don’t actually call them New Year’s Resolutions.  I call them FLOW Goals and they are part of the Strategic Planning I do each year.  One particular year, I was determined to get one of my personal goals achieved in record time…until I broke …

Probably the first thing that came to your mind when you read “sabotage” is procrastination so that’s the one I’m not going to cover.  Why?  Because there’s a simple solution.  Schedule it and get it done.  Now on to the other 5 ways we sabotage ourselves: #1 Distraction Wait a minute, there’s a FB message …

I was chatting with my friend the other day and she said something to me that made my ears perk up and say, “OOOH, tell me more…”  She said that her and her husband give each other goals each year.  “You mean you tell your husband what you want him to achieve?” I asked.  Sure …

Imagine a bamboo stick.  It’s a pretty hard substance.  I mean, you wouldn’t want to be caned with it, would you?  But even though it is strong, if you put it in a river and stand on it, the strength of the bamboo wouldn’t hold you up, would it?  Even if you had really good …