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The Encyclopaedia of NLP – a Robert Dilts’ resource Robert Dilts’ & Judith Delozier created this amazing resources in 2000. It’s sorted alphabetically and you can print up to 10 pages per day. NLP Wiki Here is another great encyclopaedia resource of NLP stuff. If you have something to share – NLP wise – please …
Do you set New Year’s Resolutions? I do. Well sort of. I don’t actually call them New Year’s Resolutions. I call them FLOW Goals and they are part of the Strategic Planning I do each year. One particular year, I was determined to get one of my personal goals achieved in record time…until I broke …
Four days ago was my Mother’s birthday and I’m dedicating this post to her. She is the most amazing woman that I know. She’s been “retired” for quite awhile now and she moved to Texas to be near my sister and the grandchildren many years ago. In Texas, my Mom found this really cool program …
I was walking up the hill behind my apartment complex to start my run. And as I was walking up the hill, I came across a man walking towards me. It wasn’t necessarily unusual for me to see someone on this road. It’s frequented by runners, walkers and cyclists. Though, on this particular day, …
There is a trend in the self-improvement industry about Mindfulness. It’s the idea that we need to focus on the “now” rather than having our heads in the future or worse, the past. I love being the outsider in my field, so I don’t agree with the Mindfulness Movement for the following reasons. There are …
The other day my friend reminded me of the urgent need for NLP skills for doctors. She was having surgery and her anesthesiologist told her that the medication that he was giving her to put her under was the “same stuff Michael Jackson liked.” With wide eyes, she looked at the doctor and said, “You …
There’s a simple way to erode your confidence and it’s a great way to ensure you never get a promotion as well. Here is your lesson in Eroding Confidence 101. First you must master the art of discounting. You must be very good at deflecting compliments and praise. So, when your boss comes to you …
Last week I talked about how easy it was to erode your confidence in two easy steps. Now for the real bit for people who aren’t into sarcasm. Discounting is a huge problem for people who lack confidence. As a reminder, discounting is when someone gives you praise or a compliment and you shrug it …
Do you want to stop the worry and anxiety in your life? It’s easy. Just practice making decisions. Yes, that’s right. Just make a decision. Most people who suffer from anxiety or worry a lot have a little bit of a problem making decisions. Here’s what happens: There’s two problems with this. The first problem …
I had the privilege of working with my niece in a workshop a few weeks back. We were asked to give a 3-minute presentation on a topic from our books (Raise Your BAR and Raise Your BAR #4Students). Baillie and I chose one of our favorite questions, “What else is possible?” Not bad for never …
When you look up “thinking” in the dictionary, you get definitions like: “Opinion. Judgment. The action of using your mind to produce ideas, decisions, memories, etc.” Thinking involves lots of areas of our brain. Our prefrontal cortex is used in making executive decisions. In NLP we call it the B.S detector. It’s great for lots …
No matter why a client walks in my door, there’s one consistent message I’m delivering. “You aren’t broken. There’s nothing wrong with you.” I specifically separate the “be” from the “do”. I base this message on a presupposition of NLP that says, “People are not their behaviors.” You are not depressed. You “do” depressing things. …
Over the course of the next 10 weeks, I wanted to share with you my favorite NLP tricks that have made a significant impact on my life. To do this effectively, I’m going to tell you the story of what exactly was going on in my life before I practiced the NLP technique (the problem …
Are you like most people – do you have a negative voice that sometimes drives you crazy with its chatter inside your head? Well, I had a voice who loved to show me movies along with the constant commentary. 2. Submodalities I would start my day getting some exercise, eating breakfast, and getting ready to …
3. Metamodel My husband used to call me the drama queen. I was constantly complaining about everything. I would moan about the incompetent waiter at the restaurant. I would whine about the useless girl at the coffee place. The taxi driver was an idiot, the landlord was a jerk, and people in the streets were …
4. Presuppositions “The map is not the territory.” It’s my favorite and most used presupposition of Neuro Linguistic Programming. When I learned about this concept on my very first day of my NLP Practitioner Certification Training, it literally changed how I see the world and everything in it. Before NLP, I had a lot of …
People often wonder where my self-confidence comes from. It wasn’t always there, mind you. I remember being unsure of myself and always concerned what others thought of me and consistently rejecting myself before anyone else had a chance to. I remember in my NLP Practitioner Certification course doing an exercise where I had to get …
Tip #6 is all about overcoming rejection. Before I took my first NLP Practitioner Certification Course, I learned about NLP from Tony Robbins’ live courses. There was one particular one, Date With Destiny, that changed my life in more ways than one. #6 Complex Equivalents If you’ve ever been to a Tony Robbins’ course, you …
#7 Outcomes When I first moved to Singapore, something very exciting happened – I got engaged! I was so excited about getting married within the year and needed to find a wedding dress. I was enchanted by the Cheongsam, a sleek Chinese styled dress with a high collar and a silhouette hugging shape. I knew …
History repeats itself. Or does it? Our brains like history. Our brains like generalizing information to match things that have already happened. We form habits this way. We also form bad habits this way. My husband used to love pointing out when I did something wrong. He told me I wasn’t stirring the risotto correctly …
Have you ever been crazy busy? I mean, like “pulling your hair out” kind of busy? It seems like more and more of us suffer from crazy busy (watch out because a pharmaceutical company will come up with a pill for it soon – but I digress). I remember a time when I started a …
I remember a time in my life when I couldn’t let things go. I could hold a grudge for years if I felt I was wronged in some way. The way I kept my negative emotions going is by telling and re-telling the stories of how I was wronged by someone. Each time I relived …
My phone just gave up last week. It was bound to happen. Google updated Android and my phone didn’t like it at all. It was too much change too fast for my baby phone and it just died. It choked on the Lollipop and I became the sucker. So I got a new phone. And …
Singapore (and other parts of S.E Asia) are suffering from the haze caused by people burning down trees to clear way for farm land in Indonesia. There have been days where the PSI rating (a measure of pollution) has reached over 300 – definitely harmful for everyone. I just happen to be one of those …
